Hot-Mess Mom Necessities

There are those girls that just have the mommy gene in them. From the time their younger siblings (or really any baby after them) was born, they bare the title of ‘little mommy’ and beg to help feed and wash and play with the brand new baby. Other girls grow to be the ‘mother’ of their friend group- the one who nags and pays for meals and gives advice beyond her years.

Then there are girls like me.

Motherhood does not come natural to me. I prefer spontaneous outings and long roadtrips full of awful candy and glass soda to the scheduled nap times and healthy food planning. Although I aspire to be that mom, and with every fiber of my being I try to meal plan and perfect ‘mom status’, I’m just not that good at it.

Thankfully, I’m not the only hot-mess mom winging it out there. I am grateful for the other moms who have come beside me and said, “me, too”, and the ones who have share that this whole mom thing is hard.

So today, I wanted to share some things that have helped me make it through the long nights of motherhood and the incredible feelings of doubt and dread. I hope you can be encouraged and inspired by some of the material below!

Surprised by Motherhood – Lisa Jo Baker \\ novel

Soon after we moved to Asheville, Jeff and I went on a date to Barnes & Noble for my birthday. It was our first date in Asheville, and having recently moved four hours away with 3-month-old fighting colic it was a breath of fresh air.

We were browsing around, and really had no intention of buying anything. But the simple title & design of the book caught my eye, and I pulled it off the shelf to leaf through. Instead of just skimming, though, I ended up reading the entire preface. I felt my eyes well up with tears. I connected with Lisa-Jo on a level I hadn’t experienced with a non-fiction book. She wasn’t afraid to say the words I struggled with inside, and her imperfect experiences encourages me to pursue God through my own. I highly recommend this book.

You can buy it here on Amazon!

I Dream of You- JJ Heller \\ music

This whole album of love songs is beautiful. Through nights of postpartum fears, the soothing melodies and lyrics not only calmed baby, but they also calmed me. Her words remind me of why I wanted to be a mother, and can I admit give me baby fever for my child all over again.

Find the album on Amazon! Also, check out her super awesome necklaces for practical encouragement.

Parenthood – Netflix \\ TV show

I debated about putting a T.V. show on this list, but it’s true and it was awesome so here you go. A comdy-drama following the lives of the Braverman family, my husband and I found ourselves laughing and crying to the almost embarrassing similiarties it feels like we share with the parents. We couldn’t stop watching it! If you aren’t a reader and need a way to chill out at night, totally try it! I swear you will laugh a lot and cry a little and leave a little thoughtful.

Watch it on Netflix USA!

Redeeming Love – Francine Rivers \\ novel

This has nothing to do with motherhood or parenting at all, but the past month I’ve been glued to this novel. The reason I include it to the list is because I was able to replace my phone with a book during feeds with Joy, and read-alouds are a little more romantic with a book! Also, the story itself is fantastic. A romance novel that ultimately display’s God’s relentless, pursuing love, Redeeming Love forced me to evaluate some of my own insecurities. I know. That good. Also, being so addicted to a book forced me to take some time for myself every day. win/win. Extra thanks to my friend Chelsie for introducing me to it!

You can buy this on Amazon!

Frank Sinatra Record \\ music

Okay, I suppose you could get a CD instead of a record, but we used vinyl records because that’s one of Jeff’s latest kicks. Again not parenting related, but bear with me. There’s something special about tucking the baby in bed, and putting on some timeless, classy music to eat dinner with or talk together with or, well, do anything with. It brings a romantic close to the day that, honestly, helps me feel a little more sexy and a little more desirable even with a postpartum body and messy-bunned hair. And can I just say his music is so relaxing. And after chasing a screaming baby all day, creating a calm environment that builds my spirit is necessary and something I look forward to.

Buy ‘September Of My Years’ record on Amazon, or give it a listen! Also just browse all of it right here because he’s a classic.

Moving forward.

Adult Coloring Books \\ creative

Okay, such a fad- I know. But I’m in love with Worship Artist’s #scripturedoodle coloring book. Honestly, now that I’m a mom, my mind never stops. Spending time in quiet with Jesus is just next to impossible, especially when the baby is napping because there are a million other things that I feel like I need to be doing and thoughts just invading my mind. So, sitting down during naptime  with some colored pencils and a book  puts my hands to work, allowing me to sit in silence while being refreshed by the words of our creator.

You can buy #scripturedoodle Coloring Book here!

I want to hear from you! What would you add to this list? What activity or product do you find especially helpful during rough seasons of your life?


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  1. Honey, the REAL perfect mom is one just like you. There are so many different types of moms. My mother was the type to display the LOOK of a perfect mom. But, she was an awful mom. She really did not like being a mother or at least a mom of Five kids. Two of us she could not stand (me & one older sister). Me she hated because being a twin I was up into her ribs & I was born feet first. I know it was not my choice to come out that way or to cause her pain but I am grateful that I was not handicapped by that delivery either, even though she insulted me as retarded many times. I only have an injured hip from it & walk normally most often when possible. Anyway, my point would be stated better on the positive view. It’s not by the looks of how you are for achieving perfect mom status but more by the love, kindness & guidance that you give to your child that ranks you as a great mom. The center of perfection is the love & God as your guide to being a true perfect mom. Everything else will fall into place as the life we live as we go through it. Hugs & love Cheryl

    1. Cheryl, thank you so much for your openness and kind words. I am so sorry you grew up with that experience- you are a wonderful woman and I always look forward to your comments. Today I am grateful that the words and actions of our parents don’t define who we are!

      Thank you as well for your encouragement! Appreciate it.

  2. I feel the same as you… I love my kids, but I can’t help comparing myself to other mamas to whom certain aspects come more naturally.

    BTW, I LOVE Francine Rivers! Granted, I haven’t read some of her newer works, but Redeeming Love and the Mark of the Lion trilogy are some of my favorites books which I’ve read over and over. Lately I’ve been checking novels out of the library, scouring various suggested book titles in my Pinterest feed. When I don’t feel like doing more housework I put my legs up and read a bit. Somewhat more justifiable since I’m 8mos pregnant!

    I was given a few adult coloring books and treated myself to a set of markers; I actually don’t have the patience to sit and finish the more complicated designs in one sitting, but it usually gets my kids interested in sitting quietly to color with me. 🙂

    Netflix, a life-saver. Movies in general, really! I watch movies while nursing, folding laundry, etc. but try not to keep the TV on during the day (unless we’re sick or it’s crappy weather).

    Baking something yummy is another outlet, as well as various hobbies (like sewing). But too much ends up feeling like a chore.

    Going to the library and looking at magazines or other books, even if I don’t check them out. Listening to K-Love and Pandora online.

    1. Yes! So glad I’m not the only one. And I knew you would have a stellar taste in books! 😉 Redeeming Love is currently the only one I’ve read, but I have Bridge to Haven and plan on starting that asap. You are totally justified for sitting back and reading! Baking a baby is some hard work!

      I love all your ideas! Keeping kids calm is a real struggle- never thought about incorporating them into the coloring time. So great! Also love Pandora.

      Thanks girl!

  3. Love this girl! This kind of post is so helpful for mamas! It’s a must to find things in the midst of motherhood that help us along the way and keeps us sane. These are great ideas! And girl, Parenthood and Francine Rivers is on point! 😉

  4. You are doing a great job. Being a parent is not easy. Mentally and physically especially a single parent. Like I was struggling to to make ends meet. But through the grace of God I made it. I give Him all the glory, honor and praise. Sorry to here the baby has colic. My baby and grand baby never had colic. We would burp the baby really well and also after baby eats and before going potty. We would bend her body back and forth to release any gas. And if you are nursing it also depends on what you eat that may upset babies tummy. Keep a journal to find out. I hope this info helps you and any new to be mommies. And there is no perfect mommy. Now grandma’s like me have more wisdom due to trial and error! 😉🙌👆🙌AnitaG

    1. Thank you so much for your encouragement and advice, Anita! I appreciate it! Fortunately, Joy is past the colic stage but I had to cut out all diary out of my diet which (loving all things milk and cheese) was a nightmare, haha.


  5. Parenting is hard and I struggle with, “am I a good mom” constantly. My babies which are 24-25 now … I still wonder if I am a good mom. P.S. I’m all about those coloring books! 🙂

      1. You are a darling to say so. I know i’ve made mistakes along the way. The wonderful part about technology/computers/internet is there is so much knowledge out there to help. 🙂 Keep up with your posts. They are wonderful.