There are those girls that just have the mommy gene in them. From the time their younger siblings (or really any baby after them) was born, they bare the title of ‘little mommy’ and beg to help feed and wash and play with the brand new baby. Other girls grow to be the ‘mother’ of their friend group- the one who nags and pays for meals and gives advice beyond her years.
Then there are girls like me.
Motherhood does not come natural to me. I prefer spontaneous outings and long roadtrips full of awful candy and glass soda to the scheduled nap times and healthy food planning. Although I aspire to be that mom, and with every fiber of my being I try to meal plan and perfect ‘mom status’, I’m just not that good at it.
Thankfully, I’m not the only hot-mess mom winging it out there. I am grateful for the other moms who have come beside me and said, “me, too”, and the ones who have share that this whole mom thing is hard.
So today, I wanted to share some things that have helped me make it through the long nights of motherhood and the incredible feelings of doubt and dread. I hope you can be encouraged and inspired by some of the material below!
Surprised by Motherhood – Lisa Jo Baker \\ novel
Soon after we moved to Asheville, Jeff and I went on a date to Barnes & Noble for my birthday. It was our first date in Asheville, and having recently moved four hours away with 3-month-old fighting colic it was a breath of fresh air.
We were browsing around, and really had no intention of buying anything. But the simple title & design of the book caught my eye, and I pulled it off the shelf to leaf through. Instead of just skimming, though, I ended up reading the entire preface. I felt my eyes well up with tears. I connected with Lisa-Jo on a level I hadn’t experienced with a non-fiction book. She wasn’t afraid to say the words I struggled with inside, and her imperfect experiences encourages me to pursue God through my own. I highly recommend this book.
You can buy it here on Amazon!
I Dream of You- JJ Heller \\ music
This whole album of love songs is beautiful. Through nights of postpartum fears, the soothing melodies and lyrics not only calmed baby, but they also calmed me. Her words remind me of why I wanted to be a mother, and can I admit give me baby fever for my child all over again.
Parenthood – Netflix \\ TV show
I debated about putting a T.V. show on this list, but it’s true and it was awesome so here you go. A comdy-drama following the lives of the Braverman family, my husband and I found ourselves laughing and crying to the almost embarrassing similiarties it feels like we share with the parents. We couldn’t stop watching it! If you aren’t a reader and need a way to chill out at night, totally try it! I swear you will laugh a lot and cry a little and leave a little thoughtful.
Watch it on Netflix USA!
Redeeming Love – Francine Rivers \\ novel
This has nothing to do with motherhood or parenting at all, but the past month I’ve been glued to this novel. The reason I include it to the list is because I was able to replace my phone with a book during feeds with Joy, and read-alouds are a little more romantic with a book! Also, the story itself is fantastic. A romance novel that ultimately display’s God’s relentless, pursuing love, Redeeming Love forced me to evaluate some of my own insecurities. I know. That good. Also, being so addicted to a book forced me to take some time for myself every day. win/win. Extra thanks to my friend Chelsie for introducing me to it!
You can buy this on Amazon!
Frank Sinatra Record \\ music
Okay, I suppose you could get a CD instead of a record, but we used vinyl records because that’s one of Jeff’s latest kicks. Again not parenting related, but bear with me. There’s something special about tucking the baby in bed, and putting on some timeless, classy music to eat dinner with or talk together with or, well, do anything with. It brings a romantic close to the day that, honestly, helps me feel a little more sexy and a little more desirable even with a postpartum body and messy-bunned hair. And can I just say his music is so relaxing. And after chasing a screaming baby all day, creating a calm environment that builds my spirit is necessary and something I look forward to.
Adult Coloring Books \\ creative
Okay, such a fad- I know. But I’m in love with Worship Artist’s #scripturedoodle coloring book. Honestly, now that I’m a mom, my mind never stops. Spending time in quiet with Jesus is just next to impossible, especially when the baby is napping because there are a million other things that I feel like I need to be doing and thoughts just invading my mind. So, sitting down during naptime with some colored pencils and a book puts my hands to work, allowing me to sit in silence while being refreshed by the words of our creator.
You can buy #scripturedoodle Coloring Book here!
I want to hear from you! What would you add to this list? What activity or product do you find especially helpful during rough seasons of your life?
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