I try to be authentic. It’s important to me that I am the same person with everyone I am connected with, whether they are family, friends, or even people I’ve never met but who know *of* me. However, there are some things I just can’t- or rather, won’t- share.


I’ll see blog posts or hear others talk people’s lives. Well, not just about *life* generally but about some specific, special, and sometimes intimate moments that happen in a person’s life. And I’m tempted often to share some of my own special moments that happen within my small family for the sake of being ‘authentic’ and also because frankly I love the romance of storytelling.

But I have to refrain myself sometimes. Of course, there’s nothing wrong with sharing stories and these moments, and I sometimes do. But every time I go to write down one of these special moments, every time I start thinking of the best way to phrase the experience in a way the rest of the world will understand, I remember that part of the reason these moments are so special and so close to my heart is because I only share them with a very select few who experienced them with me.

Moments like worship, like breastfeeding, like sharing an afternoon coffee, like speaking about overwhelming feelings, like holding hands seem so simple. But at the end of the day when I count my blessings, those small moments are the most special, the most intimate, the most sacred. As long as I have these moments, these memories, I am the richest I will ever be.

What moments in your life do you consider ‘sacred’? Do you feel like sharing your own ‘moments’ with friends and family cheapens them, or rather helps you relive the experience? I’m sure there’s not a ‘right or wrong’ when it comes to this, but the answer is probably based on personality and personal experience. 🙂

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  1. I don’t think sharing ‘cheapens’ the experience because it is still your own, but you should never share what you want to keep personal and never apologize for keeping it among those you feel most comfortable sharing it with. Blogs are public. Our personal experiences and feelings are only as public as we make them.

  2. I also don’t think sharing “cheapens.” Obviously you aren’t meant to relate every detail of your life, but I believe we are here in part to share with and minister to others as we are able. You can choose to keep things to yourself but don’t have to apologize for it.

    Yes, definitely depends on the situation… but I definitely won’t talk about intimacy between my husband and me, I wouldn’t talk about a conflict or argument going on, anything that could be construed as gossiping or hurtful… I’m sure there are other things I could add to this list.

    In the past I’ve written about our homeschool journey because I myself have been inspired and encouraged be reading about other people’s experiences. I’ve written about my birth experiences because I want people to know that there’s nothing to be afraid of and you can do it without medicine and three of my high-risk pregnancies ended up with perfect, healthy babies. I’ve written about cloth diapering and breast-feeding a bit because it’s important to me and I believe awareness is one of the first steps to healthy change. I wrote about my miscarriage because it was a) therapeutic, and b) I hoped it might help someone else going through the same thing (it’s such a sad, dark, lonely, almost secretive thing to go through). I write about crafts and recipes because I love sharing and eating and creating and reading about those things, too.

    I do think there is an excess of social media – rather than living in the moment, you’re worried about what you’re going to post on facebook or twitter. It seems like some people have to capture the perfect moment or worry about stopping to photograph their meal or whatever just so they can put it on instagram and see what people think, trying to get their likes or attention. I think that can take away from the moment.

    1. Thank you so much for your input! I realize now ‘cheapens’ may have been the wrong word to use. Blogging (and other forms of media) are so so helpful in uplifting and encouraging others by sharing genuinely real moments (and a great platform to encourage what we are passionate about). 🙂 I definitely don’t believe choosing to share moments makes them ‘less’ important or powerful. I know posts that have moved me and inspired most often speak of the most intimate and sometimes painful things- for example, your posts about the miscarriage. 🙂

      So I suppose, for me, this specific post was a reminder to myself to enjoy these moments (the mostly small ones) whether or not they will ever become a story or be shared among any one else. Kinda like your last paragraph. 😉 I so love hearing what you have to say about things! And PS, your birth story post actually inspired me to want to write about my own, so that’s been in the (slow) works.

      Thank you!

  3. Veronica, You are a very talented writer who can clarify so easily for the reader. I wrote a book and was offered the opportunity to publish it by a subsidiary of Double Day Walden Books. I did not do it, at least not yet. I realized that I wanted it perfect first. I am planning to work on it & publish it. And, why did I tell you all of this? Because, I believe you could make money as a Proof Reader. You might consider doing that because it would help your income & keep you at home. I love you guys! I know how you feel about doing this blog & film clips. You are so right to reserve certain things for privacy especially in these days where there could be some bad people following your blog. Hopefully, everyone is good. I love watching y’all. Joy looks like Jeff by her body frame but really I see both of you in her face like 50/50. Love & happiness & joy. Cheryl

  4. I have learned-, only share what you feel inspired to share. Otherwise you may experience , gut wrenching regret mixed with social anxiety! Yikes! Seriously, ain’t nobody got time for that drama, especially you guys! I support your right to privacy and peace of mind! Blessings!

  5. There are times and things that need to be private. And then things you can scream out about I feel. It doesn’t cheapen memories to talk about them, nor does it make you hidden if you choose to keep things at times hidden. Not everything needs to be mentioned to all and don’t feel guilty about it.
    Keeping real means not hiding who you are with glitzy photos and snappy ideas but just be you. And you are already doing that nicely. So keep up the good work as it shows already.

  6. By the way, since you guys will be traveling soon, I have a great travel destination! THE TEXAS HILL COUNTRY!! Its a cross between California and Colorado. And, if you do come to visit, feel free to contact us. My husband and I, plus our homeschooled daughter
    Lilly (13) would love to show you around and feed you tasty foods. Blessings!

  7. I really enjoyed this post, and finding your blog (through a blog challenge!). You have a tender wisdom and clearly a heart that is drawn to the Lord, and to soaking in every moment with Him. This was tenderly written, and was not judgmental, yet I found it pricked my heart to be ever more mindful about the “why” behind what I write, and to be cautious that the “how” honors the sacredness of private moments. While it is my desire to be intimate with my readers, I want always to honor my famliy and my God. Thank you for being vulnerable and honoring at the same time!